Time heals all wounds, or does it? Time doesn't heal it's what you DO with the time that does. The belief that we some how should just sit back and believe that time will take away the pain of our past wounds, neglect, fears, anger, guilt or trauma is an interesting...

Recently watched a teaching on the "Mother Wound"and it kicked up the question; what do I remember from my childhood? As I considered the question I became aware of what didn't happen in my childhood. I certainly am aware of the physical abuse I suffered at the hands...

In my youth I had a slew of relationships that “fell apart” after two or three months. Almost every one of those relationships fell apart because people couldn’t tolerate my neediness and constant demand on them to make me feel loved and secure. Deeply addicted to...

I was having lunch yesterday with some friends visiting from Los Angeles and we got into this great discussion about how our culture influences our posture towards healing. Shame, fear, pride, controlling our image, and many other issues erect barriers that prevent us...

I recently taught on anger at church and during my preparation I saw more deeply how my stepfather's unchecked anger did great damage to me, my family, friends and neighbors. Proverbs 29:11 tells us that "fools give vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the...

I recently saw the movie “Oz, the Great and Powerful!” James Franco plays a small town carnival magician who uses illusion, misdirection, and slight of hand to fool the locals in the small towns they perform in. He also is a bit of a cad and he flirts with the wife of...

This past Sunday Pastor Brad Wong spoke on suffering and his words cut me deeply. This past year has been one of suffering both emotionally and physically as I'm coming to terms with my inability to bounce back as in my youth, struggled off and on with times of low...

Matthew 11:12, "From the days of John the Baptist until now, the kingdom of heaven has been forcefully advancing, and forceful men lay hold of it." In other words Jesus is saying that to come into the Kingdom of Heaven requires deliberate, purposeful and determined...

Matthew 11:12 “From the days of John the Baptist until now, the kingdom of heaven has been forcefully advancing, and forceful men lay hold of it.” I've always loved the intensity of this verse. It sounds so heroic, courageous, and filled with adventure. Yet, at times...

Presently I am reading Richard Rohr's new book Internal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self. He writes that Jesus makes it very clear that there is a self that has to be found and one that has to be let go of or even "renounced." We've just finished our eleven week...